The Difference Between Hearing & Listening


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When you ask a question, are you searching for a person’s knowledge or waiting to hear the answer you want?

There’s a saying about business that goes something like this: “If you look around and find you are the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room.” Meaning, you’d be wise to surround yourself with people from whom you can learn, as well as teach.

Collaboration is one of the many keys to success. And while we can go into a project or situation with an idea of what we want to accomplish, we should never let that shut down the creativity and ideas we get from the people with whom we interact.

Some of the best ideas can come from the most unanticipated of sources.

I try to be focused on the goal, not the path. Because I’m really not interested in how I get to the end, as long as I make it there.

What are you listening for?

Don’t Be THAT GUY


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As providers of a service, part of our jobs as PR people is demonstrating our competency to the people who pay us for our expertise. An essential ingredient in that demonstration the simple act of carefully listening to the people who come to us for help, so we can sift through what they are saying, find their concerns, and distill a plan to realize their goals.

But it all starts with listening.

I was reminded of this “if you only do one thing” rule just this week, when a professional team to whom I went for their expertise did something that made me question their competency. It wasn’t a huge problem, and what I was mostly looking for was their recognition that they had made a mistake and suggest a quick fix, so we could move on to re-attack the larger reason I had hired them.

But when I inquired as to the breakdown – I wanted them to be successful on my behalf, obviously – they first blamed everyone else who had a hand in the process. When I rejected their passing the buck, they proceeded to tell me why I was wrong to blame them – because I wasn’t in their business – and barely took a breath while doing it. I couldn’t even respond to the thousands of syllables flying across the phone line. They finally accused me of not showing them any respect.

And that’s where it – and I – got a little ugly. But let’s leave that story for another day.

It’s easy to strut in front of a client – whether you drop influencer names, use insider lingo and spin yarns to prove how awesome you are – in an attempt to demonstrate your skill at your profession. But it almost always comes across as either arrogant, insulting, annoying or (usually) all three.

Point is, you can’t begin to diagnose a problem without listening first. After hearing what your client wants to tell you, it’s your turn to ask questions and probe deeper. Uncover everything they might be thinking and feeling. Only then can you offer an opinion. If they disagree, or think you’re wrong, you can discuss it. If they’re being unreasonable or unrealistic, there’s a gentle way to tell them that, but always with their goals in mind. It’s a strategy that will end well for everyone involved, and ultimately get you more business.

BONUS: This is a funny interactive website that tests your knowledge of whether you are “That Guy.” (OK, it’s mostly about beer.) Have fun!

DOUBLE BONUS: Here’s a great video of Chris Brogan explaining what “THAT GUY” is in the social media world. Make sure to follow Chris on twitter, too.